Are you Victim of Bossism? Moreover, People don’t leave jobs, they leave bosses and bossism. Here is a difficult –You are employed in a company. Your aggressive boss burns your cool temperament. He yells at you in front of everyone. He is easily angered, over reactive and instead of information, distributes chaos, tension, and bullying you among the other employees. However then also, you have to show up your work to your immediate boss and move up in the company. If you are a female, Intimidation factor might be another concern in few cases.
Sarcastic response and Exit Strategy is not always the solution. Further, your boss might leave the job in near future due to his idiosyncratic behavior. Consequentially you should not leave it.
In most of the cases, it is wise to devise modus operandi of dealing in a better way with your boss.
Below-mentioned techniques are the few tips to manage your boss:
1. Problematic Client And Aggressive mother-in-law
Think of your over-demanding boss as a problematic client and angry mother-in-law for the purpose of deal with him carefully and successfully. Handle them with courtesy, If you want to move up in your ladder of success.
2. Give priority to those things which your Boss is weak at
If your boss lacks time management skills, make his daily routine and prioritize his activities. If he is more disorganized than help them in being organized. This would lend a helping hand to him during the crisis and will increase your trust balance in his account. This trait is one of the most valuable assets.
3. Identify sensitive motivators of Boss
The better you understand the cause and effect relationship of your boss’s behavior, more easy would be to deal with him, meeting his expectations and avoiding chaos. Try to understand his point of view by putting yourself in his shoes. The Same guideline is also applicable to your boss also. Few things to know about your boss
What does he prefer most and what he doesn’t like?
What does he care most?
Is he fearful of any specific thing?
What mode of communication he likes –Mobile, E-Mail or any other medium?
What is his criterion of measuring success and his point of view about it?
Consequentially, if you know what motivates your boss, you can easily fine tune your understanding with your boss by adapting.
4. Bring that change in yourself that you expect from others
If you want other to respect you, give respect to them and then you would receive it with interest.
If you expect that your boss should not talk in a rising tone, don’t shout.
This is a universal phenomenon: When a subordinate officer approaches his boss with due respect, genuine reason and as a well-wisher, it uplifts trust level of the boss and thus enables more coordination.
5. Categorization of Bosses
Recalling history in a hurry, one of the Industrial psychologist remarked that managing a difficult boss is a challenge but it is not impossible. There are two types of difficult bosses: the First one behaves rudely due to the stress of performing well and other one behaves in a rude way due to his personality traits. There is a significant difference in approaching these kinds of bosses. The first category is relatively easy to handle.
6. Behind the curtain
If you have been insulted by your boss in front of your colleague, don’t revert in the same way to your boss in front of his juniors. Instead, when he is alone in his cabin start the conversation by using the words –Can I discuss my concerns? Don’t mix personal ego with your business persona. Don’t involve yourself in power struggle.
7. The whole Family faces trouble for one mistake
Don’t view the job as individual phenomenon–losing a job would impact every family member enormously. As per recent survey hundreds of people have lost the job in the UK and their family has also faced trouble.
8. Maintain a Distance
During informal communication with the boss, sometimes we mingle so much that we share the information with the boss which might be potentially against you.
Your boss is also a human being and he may be the victim of low self-esteem, expects more praise and admiration though he is on high position due to other reasons like experience, family business etc. Give positive feedback but don’t mingle with such type of bosses emotionally. Be a supportive person but remain guarded also.
To sum up, you can’t change your boss and other people, but you can develop skills in dealing with manipulative bosses.